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with an ex-wife but through it all and probably because of it all I have grown and learned about myself and others.

The purpose of this recitation of personal history is to try to plant the seed of self acceptance in the hearts of some of my sisters.. I didn't use quotes around the word sisters here because they aren't necessary. It is to the girl in your hearts that I am talking, not to a boy wearing dresses in either imagination or reality. My counsel and advice to you girls is to accept yourselves as girls....take over all the feminine whims, fancies, and expressions from your "brothers". Become a person in your- selves and stop pestering your "brother" with your presence. Make him give you your day, but then leave him alone when its his day. Two people cannot be in the same place at the same time, and when two personalities try it in the same mind at the same time conflict, fear, guilt, shame and hurt are the inevitable consequences. Since you both have a RIGHT to exist (and this is important to believe) it is a matter only of each having use of the body and mind at the proper time but only one at a time.

Arriving at this state of affairs is not easy nor will it be accomplished in a few days or even months. How long it takes will depend on your own ability at self-analysis and training. I think that if in addition to Dr. Bowman's advice to "accept yourself and live with it" he had told me to divide and seperate the two personalities as I an passing on to you I might have gotten to my present state long before I did. But it can be done and I heartily and sincerely offer the above counsel to all of you who have not yet found peace of mind regarding TVisa. Remember the biblical injunction...."it is done unto you as you believe"? Well believing that you can isolate your two personalities from each other is a considerable help in doing so. riake up your mind that guilt, shame and fear need no longer be your constant mental companions. What male TVs do may seem wrong to society and to the courts be- cause of ignorance and bigotry but the same thing done by women (for in general the same reasons, namely a drama- tization of their masculine drives and temporary displace-